I've only read half of this so far, as it was making me feel all the feels about awkward weight related conversations, but will come back to it later. Just wanted to comment though and say fucking hell, all of this is tricky to navigate isn't it?
Oooooft. Some of this made me Quite Cross. Particularly the bit about the friend not inviting the friend because they’d decided they’d feel shit in front of the other friends. Having been the uninvited person, I can tell you that if they actually made it to the event (because invited and/or having worked up the courage), you’d never know they felt like that. They’d put on the starriest of star turns and not make a single person feel bad or sorry for them 😤 ANYWAY. *thinks nice thoughts*
I relate to ALL of this. The pretending that I want to lose weight right now because I ‘should’ want to be thinner when actually I have a baby and I’m knackered and I want to eat biscuits.
Well he is 1 in a couple of weeks! But who cares, my mental health feels more pressing than my physical right now. And I think your point about people being able to see ‘fat’ is important
Thanks for your honesty here, and I agree that it is hard to remain body positive when a lot of the messaging in society about weight/body image still seems bizarre. For me, culture plays a significant role too. I am a white, British woman living Asia. So, I am a little on the larger side compared to a decent proportion of other women out and about. And I weight-lift, so I am bulkier. Clothes shopping can be horrendous, and on a few occasions I have been asked if I am pregnant by the assistants (always women) as I require larger sizes. So much to unpack just with that!
Isabel! Bloody deleted the comment because I’m an IT buffoon. Love this. Also slim/normal-passing, wanted to be part of that club, but feel like an utter fraud. It’s so complex isn’t it. Thanks for writing so honestly and brilliantly. X
I've only read half of this so far, as it was making me feel all the feels about awkward weight related conversations, but will come back to it later. Just wanted to comment though and say fucking hell, all of this is tricky to navigate isn't it?
Tricky and never-ending!
Oooooft. Some of this made me Quite Cross. Particularly the bit about the friend not inviting the friend because they’d decided they’d feel shit in front of the other friends. Having been the uninvited person, I can tell you that if they actually made it to the event (because invited and/or having worked up the courage), you’d never know they felt like that. They’d put on the starriest of star turns and not make a single person feel bad or sorry for them 😤 ANYWAY. *thinks nice thoughts*
PS I really want a Tony’s advent calendar
I relate to ALL of this. The pretending that I want to lose weight right now because I ‘should’ want to be thinner when actually I have a baby and I’m knackered and I want to eat biscuits.
I’m pretty sure you basically JUST gave birth, eat the biscuits!
Well he is 1 in a couple of weeks! But who cares, my mental health feels more pressing than my physical right now. And I think your point about people being able to see ‘fat’ is important
This has blown my mind - and scared me too. The teacher weight chat is just 😳😳😳
Thanks for your honesty here, and I agree that it is hard to remain body positive when a lot of the messaging in society about weight/body image still seems bizarre. For me, culture plays a significant role too. I am a white, British woman living Asia. So, I am a little on the larger side compared to a decent proportion of other women out and about. And I weight-lift, so I am bulkier. Clothes shopping can be horrendous, and on a few occasions I have been asked if I am pregnant by the assistants (always women) as I require larger sizes. So much to unpack just with that!
Isabel! Bloody deleted the comment because I’m an IT buffoon. Love this. Also slim/normal-passing, wanted to be part of that club, but feel like an utter fraud. It’s so complex isn’t it. Thanks for writing so honestly and brilliantly. X
Not a newsletter but a podcast recommendation if you haven’t already discovered it: Maintenance Phase. 👍
Oh yes, I’m rubbish with podcasts but that one I have dabbled with and really enjoyed!
I bloody love crisps
Haha, best comment. Crisps are an excellent invention, it’s true.
Ps still reading...